I Left My Heart in San Fran Seattle

16 Sep

It’s been a pretty hectic few weeks. James and I spent the last few days in Seattle doing some whirlwind socialising (more blog posts on that later!), culling our possessions (argh – stuff creep despite our best intentions) and organising the final details of our move. I’ve been in a bit of a funk since moving and don’t have my blogging mojo back yet, so here’s an abbreviated, somewhat depressing, update:

The Bad

I miss Seattle and our friends. I spent the first week in San Francisco intensely homesick. That didn’t happen when we left Melbourne, which is strange because Melbourne to Seattle is a way bigger move and we were leaving close friends and family for a whole other freaking country. I don’t know why it hit me so hard this time. I actually try not to think about Seattle because then I start crying and I can’t stop.

I’m sure that eventually I’ll get used to it, but right now I’m pretty upset at the prospect of spending almost double to live in a city I don’t love as much and having to make friends all over again. I don’t want new friends – I want our friends. =( So yeah, James feels awful because he felt like he’d pressured me into moving here (which he totally didn’t) and I feel horrible for ruining what should be a really exciting time for him. James always tells me that my one job is to be happy. He’s always given me anything I’ve wanted and I can’t even manage to do this for him.

I haven’t found a replacement gym either (which I’m sure isn’t helping). I should probably start doing some bodyweight exercises so I don’t waste away into nothing. I bet I can’t even do pull-ups anymore.

The Good

James loves his new job. He said he gets to use really innovative technologies an the projects he’s working on are even more interesting than they had led him to expect. He really enjoyed his time at Amazon, but he said Google is on a whole other level.

I can see how much happier he is working on something that he’s passionate about – the famous (and in no way exaggerated) Google perks are just the icing on the cake.

Moving Forward

James said that if I still hate San Francisco after 18 months he will transfer to the Seattle office. He said that my happiness is his number one priority, but his happiness is my number one priority! I really hope that I can learn to appreciate it here – I know that Seattle didn’t feel “right” to me until we moved out of corporate housing so maybe that’s the case here. We have two more months of free housing and I don’t want to give up the ability to save all that extra money even if it means being occasionally homesick and mopey.

Maybe in six months I’ll be able to look back on this post and laugh at how silly I was being. I was hoping I’d have a happier update for you guys, sorry. =(


11 Responses to “I Left My Heart in San Fran Seattle”

  1. Lisa September 17, 2014 at 9:20 pm #

    Hang in there!

    I hear you on the stuff culling front. I’m having major problems with that at the moment. Sigh

    • pamperedhousewife September 17, 2014 at 9:54 pm #

      I love the feeling after you’ve culled though. So light and free!

  2. Kat September 18, 2014 at 4:22 pm #

    Gosh, so sorry it’s been so rough on you. Is there any possibility of transferring back to Seattle sooner than 18 months? That just seems like a really long time to be miserable 😦

    • pamperedhousewife September 19, 2014 at 9:28 am #

      It comes and goes, really (though I’m having a great time at the moment playing tourist because one of my Melbourne friends is visiting and I’m planning a trip to Vegas with friends!).

      Apparently transferring before 18 months is kind of frowned upon – I think at Amazon it was 12 months. But I’ve visited James at work a couple of times now and it’s such an amazing environment that I’m really, really going to try hard to love it here. =)

      • Kat September 19, 2014 at 11:05 am #

        Gotta love Vegas! Have fun! Things will get better, once you’ve got your own your space and can start drilling holes in the walls… Fortunately Seattle is not as far away as Melbourne, 2 hour flight or so?So it will be easier for your friends to visit and vice versa. And who knows you may come to love it even more than Seattle..Hang in there 🙂

  3. Tanida October 6, 2014 at 8:39 pm #

    I love reading your blog. I feel like we live kinda SUPER similar life but the opposite. My husband is an attorney who worked at a firm that services all the tech companies ( mainly, Apple..Yahoo.., etc ) in the Silicone Valley. We moved from LA and I LOVED San Francisco. ( Even though, it was friggin’ expensive …) We lived there for almost 4 years. 4 months ago, we moved to Seattle for Amazon ! I was so SO So so sad to leave all my friends in SF and now I’m super homesick. I love Seattle but I don’t want to make new friends either….I said to my husband the same thing ..I WANT MY OLD FRIENDS ! I don’t work either which makes it super hard to meet people. I read your blog hoping that my life here would be as enjoyable as yours was….Hopefully, we find our ways in our new city =)

    • tanida October 6, 2014 at 8:58 pm #

      oops..sorry about 2 comments.. i thought the first one didn’t go thru so i wrote it again !

  4. tanida October 6, 2014 at 8:53 pm #

    We kinda live super similar life but the opposite ( and we have 2 dogs instead too =) ..) . We moved from LA to the Silicon Valley so my attorney husband could work for a firm that services all the tech companies ( mainly, Apple..Yahoo, etc ) We lived there for 4 years and I LOVED IT ( even though, I understand completely about your housing situation.. it’s brutal there in the city. ) 4 months ago, Amazon offered him an offer we couldn’t refuse and we’re now in Seattle. I miss everything and everyone in SF and I’m super homesick. I don’t work either so that makes it even harder to make new friends.( Just like you…I keep telling my husband, I want my friends!!! ) I love Seattle. Everything is so accessible and we can save more money but I wish I didn’t have to start over. I love love reading your blog because you enjoyed your life here so much and I just keep thinking maybe, it will be just as fun and feel like home soon. Hopefully, we will find our ways in our new city ! I always loved going to Google campus and eat Korean food in Santa Clara. You have to go to Half Moon Bay brewery and picnic at V. sattui in Napa!

    • pamperedhousewife October 6, 2014 at 10:22 pm #

      Hey there, thanks for your post!

      Even though I know that James negotiated his salary with housing cost in mind it goes against every frugal principle I have to spend 4.5k on a one bedroom that isn’t as nice as our Seattle one!

      Everyone talks about the Seattle Freeze but we made friends in Seattle pretty much our first week there. We have a couple of existing friends in the Bay Area but it’s not the same as having a core group. I miss having a built in crowd for BBQs and movie nights!

      It was really bad the first few weeks – I was pretty much crying every second day. =( I can see that San Francisco is a great city – I love the hills and the food is waaaay better than in Seattle. It’s just not MY great city, you know?

      Hang in there! Fingers crossed that we both learn to love our new cities. =)

  5. Ashley G. November 30, 2014 at 10:59 am #

    Kaye! I realize it’s like 3 months after you posted this, but John and I are seriously missing Seattle and everyone there (and you and James, of course) too! I’m so jealous he gets to see you guys in a few days. I know how you feel about being homesick for Seattle even when you weren’t as homesick leaving your actual home haha. It’s been hard being back in MA because our friend group is just so different, we don’t get together anywhere near as often as we did with Seattle friends.

    You’ll have to let me know if moving into your house (congratulations by the way!) makes you less homesick for Seattle. We’re in this apartment which we dislike pretty intensely until the end of April and I’m hoping moving to a place we’re excited about will help how it feels being back here. Hopefully we can both (or all really, since we have Lilly now) get out there to visit you and maybe get you guys out here! Congratulations on the house and job! Tell James hi and pet Mouse and Kyoto for me!

    • pamperedhousewife November 30, 2014 at 8:08 pm #

      Right?? We had an awesome thing going on in Seattle! If it’s any consolation, once you and John left we all realised how much initiating you guys did and we all really had to step up with organising group outings!

      It took maybe a month before I would stop randomly crying. =( I actually almost emailed you a couple of times asking how you managed, but figured you wouldn’t have had any problems since you were moving back to your home state! But I’ve definitely felt better this month – we’ve been hanging out with Eliot and Michelle a lot, and some of our other friends in the area.

      What is wrong with your apartment? =( I do think it makes a huge difference – if you don’t really like your home then you don’t have anywhere where you’re 100% comfortable you know? Hopefully you guys find somewhere you like next May!

      Also we would LOVE to visit you guys (or be visited!)

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